aka Why dresses are stupid, and I have very few female friends A while back, my dad sent me an ancient photo of me as a baby, wearing a dress. It was horrifying to look at. I feel so sorry Continue reading Traumatized by compulsory femininity→

I was a superhero, with a whole group of other superheroes. We had this hideout area, and inside it were 2 bathrooms. One labeled “Good Bathroom” and the other “Bad Bathroom”. When I went into Good Bathroom, I was dressed Continue reading Interesting dream about good vs bad→

This is my submission for the December 2019 Carnival of Aros, about Love. I like collecting quotes, so here are some of my favourite quotes about love. In every case it includes a link to the source, or at least Continue reading Thoughts and Quotes about Love→

CW: child abuse, physical abuse, bullying, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, invalidation, general cruelty and despair, self-loathing. This is a short summary (over 3000 words long!) of some of the ways I was traumatized by school. I might add to it Continue reading 4 ways school traumatized me, and how I’m recovering→

I used to think that being tolerant of just about anything was a good thing. There are some things that are really too awful to tolerate, though. Hitting children is one of those things. If you think hitting children is Continue reading If you think hitting children is good, I can’t be your friend→

If I could go back in time a few decades and give my past self some info, this would be (some of) it. You need headphones and music in order to survive a trip to the mall with your sanity Continue reading Don’t deny yourself something you need just because other people don’t need it→

This is my post for the August Carnival of Aros. The topic is Relationships. Some of the time, I feel like I want a tribe. A small community of people I feel unconditionally accepted by. People who enjoy each other’s Continue reading Would a tribe of antisocial hermits work?→

This is my post for the August Carnival of Aces. The topic is Deviant Identities. cw: gender, school This post is a bit rambly and disorganized. Kinda like my brain. I don’t really understand identities. Labels make sense – they Continue reading I identify as a unique consciousness→

This is my post for the April 2019 Carnival of Aces. The topic is The Five Love Languages. This is an interesting topic! It’s something I’ve researched a bit before, and taken some online quizzes, but… the quizzes tend to Continue reading The Five Love Languages, and why I’m grateful for cats→

This is my submission to the Carnival of Aros. The topic for this month is: Coming Out/Being Out As Arospec Explaining stuff to people is hard work. So, most of the time, I don’t do it. It’s hard for me to Continue reading Explaining stuff to people is hard work→